Everyone deep down is in search of ‘the one’, that one person who is our complete and total soulmate and who we can foresee sharing the remainder of our lives with. Sometimes it can take a while to meet this person and it can leave us hopeless. Unseemly questions arise within us like: is there really someone out there for me? Someone who’s made for only me? Am I going to have to compromise on what I want? Is this soulmate business even real?
Questions and thoughts like these are common, but the moral of this post is to inform you that there is someone for you. There is a soulmate for everyone. Someone who will absolutely love and adore your being is out there. An individual who will partake in your happiness, someone who will care if you’re sad. A person who checks off every item on your list. A person who will enjoy your company even when you don’t enjoy your own and a mate that will never let you be alone in this crazy world, even when you insist. It is inevitable that many of the frogs you will meet throughout soulmate searching will not turn into princes. But it is all a process- and a learning experience more so. It takes time, but in this scenario time is your friend. I mean, can you imagine being married to the wrong person?
Sohail has been wonderful to me. A true gem, and you can tell he has been raised by a queen because of how respectful and loyal he is. He has been my support system, my confidant and truest friend. I can’t imagine being married to anyone else. Sometimes I look back at all of those frogs and think how lucky I was that God didn’t let those situations progress. I believe I was destined for more. I was being perfected for Sohail, while he was being perfected for me. It took time. But time was our friend. He came along when I was happy. Happy with myself, my surroundings, while I was focusing on my wellbeing and career. He came out of nowhere and forever changed my life.
If you’ve found your soulmate, consider yourself extremely lucky and this next part isnt applicable to you (scroll down)- but if you are in search of your partner and find yourself hopeless (hey, we’ve all been there) – here are some things you can do:
Pray – Pray for everything you want. God listens.
Stay positive – Wake up with a smile. Happy feelings will attract more positivity into your life. The law of attraction is real. Also- stay away from negativity. Do not surround yourself with individuals who are unhappy with their lives and will do/say anything to hurt yours due to jealousy. If it includes calling someone out and having a bad day for one day it’s okay. Do not let yourself be around people who have no value in your amazing life. A part of loving your soul includes having the strength to stick up for yourself. Don’t be friends with dramatic and jealous individuals. Have the guts to call a bitch out when you need to.
Show gratitude – Wake up everyday grateful for five things that you have in your life. You are far better off than billions of people in this world. Remember to show your gratitude to God for the things you do have.
Value your being – know that you have a standard and a strong self worth and that you will not settle for any loser. You are not searching to settle. You are searching for your soulmate. Settler ≠ soulmate.
Work on yourself – if you know you get angry at the drop of a hat or aren’t happy with an attribute you possess, work on yourself. I’m not saying change who you are- but alter your bad qualities into better qualities for your own well being.
The more you focus on yourself and your own soul throughout all of this, the more enjoyable and memorable this process becomes.
In honor of my togetherness post I wanted to share a few photos from our rukhsati ceremony last year. I was inspired to write this because of our one year anniversary. May we have many, many more.14 love